Friday, June 3, 2011
OUCH!!!
Ok, so there is this older lady I work with that is part-time - only 10 hrs a week. I have been open about my surgery at work. This woman is truely a kind person but is as dumb as a rock. She asks my about what I can eat and how much I have lost on a daily freaking basis. I am a Probation Officer and have to be a bitch so much that I atleast try to be nice to coworkers - so, I play along with her little game. Today, like every week, she asks me how much I have lost. I tell her 81 lbs. She then says "Wow, I can't believe you have lost that much, you still look the same". Eighty F'ing Pounds and I still look the SAME!! WTF!! I swear to you I had to fight the urge to tell her to "Fuck Off", order a pizza, and go to the bathroom to cry. I do not think this lady is capable of being mean, I honestly believe this is what she thinks. Three explainations have occured to me 1) She is too dumb to know what she really said, 2) She meant what she said and I haven't lost enough weight to show a big difference to her, or 3) She really is a nice person and didn't see me as the huge tub of lard I was before. Who knows. I have got to move past looking to others to validate me.
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People who see you often-ish can't see it as well as people you see once a month, etc. Show her a picture of you before and I bet she'll be singing a different tune. :)
ReplyDeleteUm - that would annoy anyone....you should say back, "yah it's almost like you looking the same after you've gained those last 30 pounds." Why are people so dumb?
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about people asking often. It drives me insane! Have your clients started asking questions yet? That was an uncomfortable time for me. (I have the same job as you)
ReplyDeleteHeather- I have to admit that I have messed with my clients a little...when the few that have asked said something about it I just tell them I got my haircut or smile and say that I've just dropped a "few" pounds! It is actually been I opening for my to apply the cycle of addiction principles (I only supervise drug-addicted youth) to my former eating habits. I had more in common with a heroin addict than I thought!
ReplyDeleteUGH! Don't let someone like that really get you down. She is probably completely oblivious and never looked at you before. She still is probaby not looking at you now...and clearly she has some issues if she keeps asking you...so memory issues.....I say consiuder the source. :) You ROCK!
ReplyDeleteDumb as rock? I think you're being too kind. People are ridiculous. I second what others have said though. People who see you day to day have a harder time seeing the difference as people who see you less frequently. Don't let people like this discourage you!
ReplyDeleteWow. Just wow. Good for you for being the better person. What a strange person.
ReplyDeleteI am so late on posting here, but here is my thought on that woman. Some people- read thin people- only view fat as fat. They really don't seem to be able to gauge the difference between someone who weights 320 vs. 240 (no clue what your weight is), because to them, either is fat. My mom and I were just discussing this, bc I am really surprised how some people are really vocal about my WL and others seem to be clueless. Regardless, 80 lbs down is fab!
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